Shannon over at Rocks in My Dryer is hosting a meme to share your child birthing experiences in honor of Labor Day…get it LABOR Day. Who am I kidding, of course you get it! Now, on to the show!
How long were your labors?The Bean: Never went into labor – Okay, I know I’m risking the ire of every other woman who has spent hours in agony birthing their child(ren), but I never got far enough into my pregnancy that I actually went into labor. Personally, I feel that the nearly 6 weeks The Bean spent in the NICU after she was born is probably an even trade-off for not experiencing labor pains.
How did you know you were in labor?
The Bean: See above – We knew it was time for delivery when the perinatologist said, “The placenta is damaged. She’s not getting nutrition and therefore not growing. We need to get her out.” It’s a nice feeling when your body bails on you and your child.
Where did you deliver?
The Woman’s Hospital of Texas. I wholeheartedly tell everyone, “Go there! They are wonderful!”
Drugs?
I had a spinal due to the fact that The Bean came via C-section (see below).
C-section?
Yep. No labor. No vaginal childbirth. No direct nursing (But 14 months of exclusive pumping). No bringing my child home with me. I missed all the “normal” things that go along with birthing a child.
Who delivered?
Two of the wonderful perinatologists in the practice that accepted me after my OB sent me to Woman’s Hospital following a week’s stay at another hospital in the city. She told me later, that she sent me there because she knew The Bean was going to need a good NICU and that theirs was great (She was right on both counts). I spent a week and a half at the second hospital trying to keep The Bean cooking as long as possible and really got to know the staff on the antepartum unit in that time. After my section, I specifically recall the nurse asking the doctor what room he wanted to send me to after the surgery. His matter-of-fact-why-is-this-even-a-question reply has always stuck with me. “Send her back to antepartum. She knows them over there.” He knew that a first time mama who had delivered a preemie needed whatever stability she could get even if it meant spending my last 3 days in the hospital with people I’d only known for a week and a half. That’s the kind of doctor you want.
Despite the fact that her birth wasn’t “perfect” or “normal,” I can truly say that I’ve found blessings in it all, and The Bean, herself, is the biggest blessing of all!
If you want to play along with this meme, cut and paste the questions into your own blog, and head over to Shannon’s post to leave your link.












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September 1, 2008 at 7:28 am
Steph
I can so relate to the feelings of having your body bail on you….no one who’s not had a preemie could understand how a woman feels who is unable to carry to term.
that being said, you pumped EXCLUSIVELY for 14 mos?? I think that is super…. I pumped while the twins were in the hospital and until I stopped working outside the home to run my daycare…. then we wound up nursing until the twins were 27 mos…. (hence the need for training bras now! hehe)….but I think that you were more of the supermom for keeping on….what a wonderful thing you did for the Bean!
September 1, 2008 at 9:59 am
Amy
I’d read Bean’s story before but I enjoyed reading it here today. And you know I’m with you on missing out on the normal stuff…. us preemie moms jump right into the hard stuff!
September 1, 2008 at 11:23 am
Anna
Oh my gosh! She was so tiny! Adorable!
I am not judging you at all about the labour! Any way that you get a baby wether C-section, naturally, with drugs or not, to term or not, invetro or any other method, or even adopt it is still the same commitment and love. That is all that counts in my books.
Lovely post!
September 1, 2008 at 11:59 am
Summer
She was so tiny!
September 1, 2008 at 5:34 pm
Whitney @ Baby Tunnel Exodus
I can tell you from experience (3 times over!) that your life is no less fulfilled by “missing out” on labor. Really. Our first son spent time in the NICU too, I could do a whole post wondering where those nurses hide their wings! Bean doesn’t look any worse for the wear – Stay blessed! ~Whitney
September 2, 2008 at 8:28 am
TheAngelForever
Wow, go you on pumping for 14 months! Both of my boys would not latch when they were first born. I pumped for my oldest for almost four months until he finally was able to use a shield. With my little guy I pumped for the first few weeks and then he decided he did not like bottles and has been nursing like a champ. You certainly are a very dedicated mommy to pump like that for Bean.
Bean is such a gorgeous little girl :)
September 2, 2008 at 11:51 am
Steph
Oh what a precious little Bean she is, and has been from the get go! I hadn’t read your birth story, so I’m glad to read it this time!
In the end, the most important thing is to have a healthy little baby, right? I imagine having your daughter in the NICU was much harder than labor, and I’m so glad that all turned out well.
Blessings,
Steph
September 2, 2008 at 1:04 pm
Keetha
What a great story! My dear son was early, but only three weeks, so labor was induced and he was 6 lbs 6 ounces. A good friend of mine had twin girls a few weeks ago who were something like 11 weeks early; they’re still in the hospital, of course, and I’m praying for them all. Thanks for sharing your story.
September 2, 2008 at 4:54 pm
Kama
Wow, she was tiny. So glad that she is healthy and fine.
I’m so glad I found this Labor Day event hosted by Rocks in My Dryer! I am due in exactly 4 weeks, so I’m glad to read all these labor stories! :) Thanks for sharing!!
September 2, 2008 at 7:57 pm
Julia
What a great & miraculous story this is! It doesn’t seem to matter how hard it was when they came into the world after you see them at last.
September 3, 2008 at 1:25 am
momisodes
Such a touching story. She is gorgeous and truly a miracle :) You are such a trooper for pumping for 14 months! thank you for sharing this.
September 3, 2008 at 8:25 am
Mozi Esme's Mommy
She was so tiny! And gorgeous!
September 4, 2008 at 5:16 am
Heather @ Not a DIY Life
I knew Bean was a preemie, but to see those pictures! That really drives it home of how tiny and fragile she was!
I’ve had 2 c-sections, so I feel like I missed out a little with the no labor, no vaginal birth too. But grieving the death of a child surely contends with anyone’s labor story.
So many different stories of how we each came into motherhood. Yet we’re all moms who deal with similar day to day stuff! So glad to have my mommy blogger buddies!
September 7, 2008 at 4:57 pm
CC
She’s sooooo tiny! I can see why you call her “The Bean”. Adorable though!!